is love enough?

my day was wrought with havoc....

 the good husband or the rebellious daughter? if faced with an impossible choice how is a woman supposed to choose?

 When i was young, i reveled in the tale of my mother and father's love story. Together since the age of 16. Each other's firsts.. and last. They battled through the difficulties of life, enduring long separations, until they both became financially successful. Theirs was the love of a lifetime, a love that is all sacrificing and passionate.

 It all started one family dinner, all five of us. My mother, Father, my brother, and me. We were waiting for my sister; who as usual is late for our weekly family dinner. When all of a sudden my sister burst in on us pale and stammering her apologies for being late.

 My mother the ever sensitive one, inquired:

"Eleni (my sister) is something wrong?"

"Well um not really... um mom can i talk to you in the library?"

A few minutes later I heard shouting from the library. So i went to check on them.

"Eleni what is wrong with you? Dad and Lucien are in the terrace. You know Dad doesn't like it when we shout at mom."

The scene in front of me was like a tableau,  my sister all frantic, my mother hysterical.
It seems like my wayward sister got pregnant by her boyfriend. My family dislikes her boyfriend because he has an awful reputation with women. The guy is her tennis instructor whose intentions are a little questionable. Eleni got an abortion because she was scared of being disowned, and because she wants us to accept the guy, and her getting pregnant will make my Dad even more angry at him than he already is.

So here is my sister screaming,ranting and blaming our parents for her decision, especially my mother.
My sister wants us to accept the guy into the family because she loves him. So i told her that its not that easy because he insulted our Dad a couple months ago.


My mother wanting, to give my sister everything is asking me to go convince mt Dad to accept the guy. Unfortunately all the shouting drew the attention of our father that he burst into the library followed by my brother.


My Dad was livid, he wants to teach my sister a lessons by making her leave the house and cutting off her finances. My parents get into an argument. 


My mom is scared of what people will say. She wants to save face and keep everything under wraps. She also does not want my sister to leave. She is threatening to go live with the guy if we don't accept him.


My Dad wants a firm hand on my sister. Unfortunately my mom is saying that she's still young (she's 25) and that if she lives the house her lifestyle will radically change because the guy can't afford to provide for her. My Dad made my sister choose. She choose the guy, and my mom pays for their apartment and needs secretly.


For a year we endured chaos in our family dynamics... Whats more my Dad got sick...he was hospitalized for more than a month... Even then my sister didn't visit. The Guy's been spreading to all and sunder that my Dad is an awful father, that he's abusive and an asshole.


My Dad found out that my mom's been supporting the guy and my sister. 


 A week ago, he went to London.  


My Dad sent my mom an email when he arrived in London. 


LETS FACE IT SOFIA! I CANNOT TRUST YOU WHEN ELENI IS THE ISSUE!!! I CANNOT MAKE MYSELF DO SO!! THIS IS GETTING TO MY NERVES AND IN TRUTH AFFECTING MY JOB, MY SLEEP AND MY HEALTH. I'M SORRY!! PRAYERS ARE GOOD YES IT HELPS YES! BUT TO USE IT AS AN ESCAPE FROM REALITY!!!??ENDING UP FOOLING YOUR PARTNER IN LIFE??.I AM SORRY SOFIA BUT I'M NOT HAPPY. YES HAPPY BECAUSE I LOVE YOU BUT YOU ARE ABUSING IT............ THAT TO THE END I'M NO LONGER SURE IF I AM HAPPY. 


all this makes me wonder? is love ever really enough? What if in your partnership as husband and wife, you sacrifice your time, and your health to provide for your family.Then they betray you. Are you supposed to just understand and take it? are we supposed to love unconditionally? can a marriage overcome a fracture in trust?

The Beginning

"the beginning"

 In a society/ community where in the definition of a successful woman is a flourishing career, a husband, kids, a four bedroom house, and a car for every family member. Where do mere mortal women like us fit in this world? This blog is about the interwoven lives of 3 women, their families, relationships,loves and life.

 one cold winter day,Andromeda, Katerina, and Etienne are carrying on with their weekly girls date. Only this time its Over Skype. Etienne is a continent away, and Kate and Andy are back home.

 ' Girls i have news' Andromeda said. " Im Pregnant" ' that's not news' kate exclaimed in her normal quiet voice. " aw, c'mon you guys you already discussed this without telling me?!" " exactly what do you mean by that kate? I'm pregnant so what? E, i didn't tell her first ok? she's just got her panties in a bunch cause we haven't seen each other in a long time." " and whose fault is that, andy? we live in the same city! you've been avoiding me!" " can you blame me?" andy grumbled.

Andromeda, or andy as we call her is my drop dead gorgeous friend who's got a penchant for dramatic romantic relationships. Katerina, called kate is the quiet, scholarly yet fashionable one. Then there's me. Commonly called E short for Etienne, the perpetually lost one.

 We've been friends since we were in our preschool. We went to the same high school and to the same university, albeit took different courses. Andy have always been outgoing. She was, and still is a social butterfly. While kate and I were spending our lunch hours in the library all through high school. Andy was kissing every hot guy in between the stacks. In college when kate and i took to the bleachers to ogle hot sports guys, Andy dated them.

 Then, one day she surprised us by steadily Dating Benjamin, rich, kind, conservative, but average looking. They've together since our 2nd year in college (or so we thought) . Which is why Kate and I were dumbfounded when she announced that she's pregnant, and the father is not Ben. Unbeknownst to us she and Ben haven't been together in over 6 months, She caught Ben cheating on her. Andy went to to lament that how can a guy who is supposed to have been lucky to snag her do that to her. In all fairness Andy did love Ben, she was really thinking that he was the one. Her parents even liked Ben.

So, anyway Andy announced that she's marrying her baby daddy.. the guy is non other than Donald, a small time underwear model who also works as a concierge at Andy's hotel. Granted, he is hot and tall but still marrying a guy you've only known for six months? and a rebound at that. But Andy was adamant that its love.

Apparently Andy, who has never opened a bible in her life was swept off her feet cause Donald was religious and Family oriented. They would stay up all night talking, and discussing the bible and you know.. I guess the lethal combination of looks and religiousness proved to be Andy's downfall. When Donald found out she was pregnant he gave her a bible and when she opened it a ring was there.

 Whats happening to Andy leads me to examine women's preconceived notion that a nice guy, is one whose got a stable job or well off, not overly handsome, and dependable. Isn't it a contradiction that a guy who's supposed to be dependable turned out to be a two timing ass, and the guy who typically jumps from women to women is owing up to his responsibility. how do we know how to choose the better man? Also, is becoming pregnant by your boyfriend a push to marriage?